Living With Teens
You Can Do It, With Time and Patience
can be a trying period for both parent and teenager. Many
dilemmas the wide variety of choices, intense
pressure to succeed and the availability of drugs and
alcohol can complicate a teenagers life.
With time and patience, you can assure that this period
is rich and rewarding for your family. You can create an
environment for growth.
What is Adolescence?
By the age of 13, most children are beginning to break away from their families. Friends appear to have more influence than the parents. The young teen is taking care of himself or herself more and more.
Two opposing viewpoints can start friction:
A Loving Interdependence
The basis for a positive relationship with your teenager starts with an understanding of your interdependence. You may see your responsibility as caring for your child. Your child, as you see it, needs to learn that the way to becoming his or her own person is by respecting and following your guidelines.
In helping to develop your teens judgement and sense of personal responsibility, you need to be a loving guide. This means being there at all hours to listen, to answer questions and to offer positive support.
It might help to recall what you went through as a teen. You may remember that part of the process was scary. At the same time you were feeling independent, you may have felt highly vulnerable.
For most teenagers, setting limits helps them to feel more secure in the long run. The trick is to establish and enforce your limits with mutual understanding and respect.
Your program for providing the best environment you can for your teenagers passage into adulthood may include:
You can teach responsibility if love and trust are the basis of your relationship. A positive attitude, realistic expectations, and open communication can help you to succeed.